Comeback: to Purpose In Your Presence

Happy New Year! I know a lot of you are trying to make some changes, so I want to tell you to stay encouraged, but stop showing up for the people who don’t want to see you succeed, and start showing up for the folks who need to see you succeed.

And I know that looks the same to a lot of people, so let me explain to you what the difference is. When we show up for people who don’t want to see us succeed, it’s often because they’ve told us they don’t think that we can.

Now we feel like we have to bury them in our personal accomplishments, and then dance on their graves with a healthy dose of us living well. But does that really serve us?

Probably not.

Because if you think about it, if you were gonna make those accomplishments anyway, if they were truly a part of your passion and your purpose, it wouldn’t have taken them prompting you to do it out of spite alone.

So, remember that. The next time someone says that you can’t do something, it’s not about them, it’s about you.

And it’s also about the people who need to see you do well. For instance, the past 15 years I’ve spent a lot of time in a lot of different rooms where I just so happen to be the only woman, the only black person, the only person below a certain socioeconomic status, or the only person who has any history that resembles mine at all.

And that’s when I know that there’s purpose in my presence. That’s when I know that there’s a reason why I’m in that room. And that reason has everything to do with the people who need to see me do well.

There are people out there who need to see you do well. They need to see you succeed. Whether you’re the first person in your family to finally kick diabetes, or your first person in your friend group to buy or own your own home, or the first person that you know to go and get higher education.

Whatever that is, there are people out there who need to see you succeed.

There is purpose in your presence.

So when you’re celebrating your accomplishments — and you should, because you have earned them — just remember that the purpose in your presence, is so they can come on through too.

So I’m telling you, this 2017, find purpose in your presence. Stop showing up for the people who don’t want to see you succeed, and start showing up for the people who need to see you succeed.

So they can come on through too.

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